Dashain
2064 in my eyes
-Moheindu Amiran
Chemjong
Last year, the day of tika had been another
ordinary day in my life. I had had a regular working day. I clearly remember
that I had gone to Scarborough beach for a
walk in the evening like in most evenings as usual. I had had a frozen Indian
meal for dinner like on most days. But my mobile had been ringing continuously
because my parents, cousins and relatives had been calling me to give me greetings
of Dashain and blessings. Our conversations had been sentimental with
outpourings of me being missed on the special day. My heart had been very heavy
that day, evening and night! Due to my studies, I hadn’t had the opportunity to
be home for Dashain and therefore, this year, this Dashain was very special to
me. Besides the privilege and honor of being with my family and relatives, this
year’s Dashain also showed me some very interesting facades. I felt that this
was almost like catching up on what I had missed out the past three years and
hence I owe these sweet and sour truths of Kathmandu
for making my Dashain 2064 extra special!
The one thing which was quite noticeable was the
petrol hike, the petrol line! Dashain came and has almost gone away but the hype
of petrol just has not come to an end yet. This was indeed a big time because
many people who had to go and receive tika had to break and bend their rules.
Some had to get lifts and some decided to go and receive tika at many places on
the same day if the houses were on the same route. This year we had some people
in the house to receive tika but it was rather funny because they wanted short
cut blessings for their taxis would be waiting outside. Because of limited
petrol and diesel, some decided to leave their cars home and resorted to taxis.
Likewise, there was another party who wanted to rush back home to sleep in
early for they had to get up and be ready to queue up in the petrol lines by
four am the next morning! I heard many complaints about the petrol shortage and
many stories of the petrol lines. I learnt that there are lots of other people
like myself whose socializing and interesting past times have decreased because
of this crisis!
Passing by the roads, a close look at the petrol
lines this time gave another surge of ideas Since the lines were long and the
uncertainty about getting petrol seemed to be high, I thought that some NGOs
and INGOs could use this time and grab the attention of the people waiting in
the line to disseminate important bits of information or even distribute their
pamplets! At a time when barbequed sausages have hit many roads of the Kathmandu valley, the petrol lines could be some idea to
expand the business. Or, even ice-cream or take-away tea or coffee! A lot of
people seemed busy adjusting their hair, getting rid of blackheads and doing
their eyebrows. You know what, the beauty business could just start amongst
these lines. Different people in the lines seemed to be absorbed in different
thoughts, wore different expressions and seemed to be having different types of
conversations while waiting. It seems to be that this is a big time waster and
I suggested my friend a book or two. It was then that he narrated the story of
how his headlight disappeared when he had been too busy absorbed in some
newspaper while waiting at the queue!
Like in the past years, the season was at her very
best during this festive season. There is the sweet autumn breeze, the mellow
sunshine, the beautiful colours of marigold and the makhmali flowers, the heavenly colours of the mustard in the
fields and the magnificent smell of guavas in the air! My heart was profoundly
happy and I felt a sense of pride and self-satisfaction filled my heart and I thought how lucky I am to be born a Nepali and belong
to my motherland Nepal where culture and heritage flourish in spite of what
Nepal has been undergoing in the past years.
At the Dashain 2064 gatherings and parties, the
music sounded very cool and modern! All my younger and dance-loving loved ones
sway their bodies to these numbers, I thought that they must be dancing to some
English or Hindi hip hop or rap numbers but on closer listening, I was
absolutely amused that these ultra modern numbers, too carried the Nepali
spirit for in spite of the rap, they were all remixed
Nepali songs- By road ko batoma, Resham firiri, Rato ra chandra surya!
This was quite a sentimental Dashain too! With blessings
and dakshina, my elder ones gathered tears in their eyes. They all told me that
they are proud of me and especially proud of my decision to come back to Nepal . With
their blessings, my Nepali heart was filled with immense love, pride and
patriotism! But then I had some friends and relatives who also sarcastically
told me, “When is this NRN (Non-Resident Nepali) returning back?” I had many people
tell me how foolish I am on taking this decision to come back to Nepal ! At this
time, the NRN Conference also took off! Some of my friends, fellow NRNs were
busy rushing back, flying back one or two days before Tika because of the
packed airline schedules for Dashain. But it was truly wonderful to know that
my friend, Sagar Onta who happens to be the Youth Representative of the Non-Resident
Nepali Association seemed delighted to be home for Dashain to spend Dashain
with his family and at the same time, was hopeful that the Government will
extend cooperation in implementing their many projects!
Dashain 2064 also brought back lots of vivid memories
to my mind. I thought of us playing cards, kites, firecrackers, counting daskhina,
playing on the swing and got quite nostalgic. This was aggravated by the fact
that this Dashain, the only daughter and granddaughter who in Kathmandu
was me. All my sisters, brothers and cousins are all studying or working abroad
and none decided to make it home this Dashain. But I felt truly satisfied that
I was here to receive tika from my sick relative, too. He lay on the bed as he
put tika on our foreheads but I felt this was the most emotional fulfilling
aspect of this Dashain for me. I thought what a beautiful festival we have-that
allows us to get together with loved ones and receive blessings from our elder
relatives and what a beautiful culture that teaches us to respect our elders!
During Dashain, we had many people coming to our
house. For the menu, there was the usual meat, rice, chiura, vegetables,
sweets, yogurt, fruits including aloo dum. But I couldn’t stop smiling when
someone starting complaining that this Dashain, the price of the potatoes have
gone up drastically, my Mother should have made lauka dam instead. He said that
on one hand, we’d be enjoying a Dashain feast and on the other hand, we’d be
following Ram Dev’s diet regime! My friend suggested that from new year
onwards, people should refer to the Rastriya Bank’s Price Index before giving
dakshina or in other words, mangi bhatta
has to be taken into account, or too could go out on the streets!
I also noticed that our Nepalese society is
becoming more skeptical and vocal about the old age custom of making animal
sacrifices. I saw articles in newspapers and magazines and people were talking
about this old age custom. Had it to do with the blood shed and atrocities that
have taken place while I was away, I wondered. To follow suit, a friend of mine
also bought 10 kilos of meat and kept it in the freezer. Likewise, I also did
not hear too much hype about the Dashain sait, the most auspicious time to put
on tika.
Though things are changing, I noticed that the
niceties of Dashain had been kept intact. I saw that from Talchikhel to
Panchkhal, children were busy playing on the swings. Till Astami, the eight day
of Dashain there was a huge rush of people in New Road , the hub of shopping in Kathmandu , rushing and buying for Dashain! It occurred to
me that we, Nepalese people have the power of resilience, the power to adapt,
adjust and accommodate as Sai Baba has said and to learn to live in spite of
the uncertain situation of Nepal .
Even those people who were working even on the day of Tika had little
complaints. My friend, Surendra Phuyal who works for the BBC was a bit
disappointed but told me that it is indeed an honor to be home and to receive
tika from his parents and elders on this special day.
The week leading up to Dashain, there wasn’t a Nepal bandh,
and the arms had been laid down. For a while, I thought I had taken back in
time and for a while, I quite enjoyed what seemed to be like a beautiful dream!
I thought of all those people in Kapilvastu who have had a bitter year and have
been displaced without ghar or bahar. My heart went out to them! I sometimes
can’t imagine we got to this magnitude of situation. I secretly hoped that this
spirit during Dashain will not wane even after Dashain. I believe Nepalis all
over the world united for Prashant’s triumph which clearly showed that once we
unite, nothing is impossible and that we can lead the country to peace and
development. Taking a cue from Prashant’s triumph, our ability to unite and
Goddess Durga’s blessings for us to win over the evil for peace to prevail, I
thought maybe our dreams of a Nabin Nepal
will come true!
The other hot topic during the Dashain parties in
my household seemed to be modern day thieves who visit houses when Dashain is
the air!My relative had recently been bothered by this thief in broad daylight
on Phulpati this year. This thief in a mask demanded for mobile phones, watches
and cash. Poor lady had no choice but to hand over the mobile phones and
watches but she used her instinct and said, “Bhai, you’re taking our mobile
phones but maybe please have the sim cards?” But just before he left, he did
not forget to say, “Thank you Aunty. Dashain greetings to you. “Another family
friend narrated a story of how on Saptami, she saw a truck of household items
being loaded on to a truck. She thought to herself, “What a time to shift,” but
that very evening, her neighbor told her that it was a thief had gotten inside
the house and stolen their goods when they had gone off to visit different
temples. Someone suggested that we should always have some fresh bank notes in
the house all the time during Dashain for our own personal safety!
Dashain was on in full swing but the hordes of
people coming and going outside the country did not stop. On the Astami
morning, I saw some healthy youngsters dressed in designer track suits and
expensive sports shoes, jogging at six. It was rather interesting because on
their backs, they had dokos filled with wood sticks. It looked a bit strange
and so I asked them what was going on. They told me that it was their physical
preparation to become lahures in near future!
With the span of three years, the mobile craze has
really really caught Kathmandu ! This Dashain,
I met lots of souls who had the malshri tune as rigntones which I found really
amusing! However, what was pleasing was that one should really be thankful that
even mobile phones registered in Nepal have global roaming and we
can send sms to people all over the world. In spite of the miles between us, I
kept in touch throughout Dashain with my friends and relatives, conveying
messages of Dashain! I also met another lot of people who were complaining that
they had been busy cooking and cleaning the house and driving around since
their helpers and chauffeurs were on Dashain leave. Someone even suggested that
since a lot of women celebrate Teej by enjoying themselves the modern way, the
Kathmanduites are quite ready for Dashain tika at party palaces or hotels! I
also heard many logics of celebrating or not celebrating Dashain and saw many
people on the streets with white Tika on their foreheads.
My Dashain this time around was extremely
interesting! I am very convinced that you also had a remarkable Dashain. Now,
Diwali is on the way, let us hope Goddess Laxmi will bless everyone and give us
a fantastic and interesting Diwali!